I watched the now-viral TED talk by Brene’ Brown on Vulnerability. She says that the people who are most able to be vulnerable are the ones who are whole-hearted, who feel themselves worthy.
What makes someone feel worthy, and therefore, secure enough to be vulnerable?
I think it has to do with self-care. A person who feels less-than-worthy will not take the effort to care for herself with good nutrition, proper rest, creative activity or other maintenance activities or exercise. Even if the person has good overall habits, she will not risk upsetting the apple cart to add something new, even if it is part of the dream.
Risks make her too vulnerable, if she does not feel worthy and centered in her self-esteem.
This is why today, I bought myself roses, and I took a picture with me reflected in the window (look very closely to see me).
I am worthy of roses, even if they did come from Aldis and they are not quite fresh, they are roses, they are beautiful and so am I. I am worthy. It is all right for me to reward myself for making new habits and accomplishing my short-term goals. Roses last longer than a chocolate bar.