Forgiveness is forever.
Let it go. Whatever they did, whenever it was, it is over now. No, it was wrong. Yes, it did hurt. But who is hurting now, as you dwell on your anger, sorrow, and disappointment? It’s not the person you are blaming. It is yourself.
Forgiveness is not about letting a person continue to hurt you. It is not about giving in to abuse or injuries. Forgiveness is about allowing yourself to move on, to understand that you did the best you could in the circumstances, and now you are doing what is best for you now. Forgiveness is about removing the emotional energy from the memory and finding the strength, purpose and focus that you developed from that experience.
First forgive yourself. You did the only thing that you could have done. If you could have done something else to prevent the incident, you would have. If you could have reacted differently, you would have. You are innocent, but you do not have to be a victim. You can be your own hero and overcome the injury and pain.
But here’s the kicker. Even though you think the other person should have done something else, from your current perspective, that other person could not have acted differently either. He or she was stuck in a mindset that did not allow any other action. Forgiving that person by removing your emotional energy from the thoughts of that person may actually allow him or her to change.
But what is most important, you will get that energy back for your own use, for your healing, for your next project.
Ironically, forgiveness is the best revenge, because you remove yourself from the power that the other person has over you. They move out of your awareness as you create a better, heroic life for yourself. What could be better than that?
I have never thought about forgiveness as being revenge but it’s so true! It gives you the upper hand as well as the only way to really get relief from a situation.
xoxo Lloralye @ Adorning Schemes A to Z
I did not set out to write it that way, but the gift of writing from “the back of your head” is that Source/Inner Being/God(dess)/the Universe gives you more than you know that you have. Happy A to Z Challenge!
Just a month ago I was in a very emotional state and I was in deep pain. A realization made me think that I have to embrace that pain but at the same time I have to let it go.
I think there is a difference in acknowledging the pain and feeling it, and “embracing” it. It’s not that you love the pain, or that you welcome it, but you listen to it, find the message, and then, as you say, move on. The pain is the messenger, not the message. in my experience, it’s easy to focus so much on the pain, on the exquisite agony of it, that I miss the meaning.